"Real Winners Lose"
(By Bob Perks - Bob@BobPerks.com)

1-15-02 Church Within SOW Seeds Service - Story #223

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Greetings my Dearest Sisters and Brothers, and welcome again to Church Within's Story of the Week ["SOW Seeds”].

This week's SOW Seeds Story, contributed by: Bob Perks

Story of the Week
"Real Winners Lose"
(By Bob Perks - Bob@BobPerks.com)

When I was a child I played the games that children played. Even then it wasn't so important for me to win. In fact, I got much more enjoyment out of creating winners by permitting others to win.

Oh, often times I did indeed lose legitimately. There were a few in my circle of friends I competed with regularly. They seemed to have it all. I wanted them to lose.

But when they did, I hurt for them still.

So this brings to mind what it takes to be a winner. A friend of mine sent me an email updating me on a mutual acquaintance I was concerned about. His message to me included the whole chain of email messages that were exchanged in the process.

Glancing through them I came across these words:

"Here is one of the finest people that I know and he has made very little financially, but he is a great success spiritually."

He was writing about me.

I stopped and re-read that sentence. I struggled with what it said. I thought about how he saw me. Then I wondered what others thought.

My ex-wife told my son once that "Your father wants to save the world."

She saw that as a fault. I saw it as a compliment.

During Christmas, it was decided that my side of the family would not exchange gifts. My niece, Karen said, "Can you imagine what that will do to Uncle Bob?" She knew how much I love to give. I didn't even know she recognized that in me.

But at 52 I was not successful financially.

Had I gone too long permitting others to be winners?

Had I played the game so long that I was perpetually second place in all the important parts of life?

Can you be a winner in life and not have a lot to show for it?

Am I a winner? Are you?

Here is a test for you. Close your eyes for moment. Now take a deep breath and hold it. Listen to the sounds of the world around you. Did you notice that life kept on going? You stopped breathing. You were out of the picture. But the world kept on going, life kept on living. The only difference was you weren't in it.

It didn't make a difference except for two things.

How many people would miss you and what legacy you left behind.

In time and space there would be a void left in the universe because you were gone. Your energy, which connected to everything around you, would no longer be a source for them. That void would be noticed by those whose lives you touched. Even those you have influenced but never knew it.

The things that remain, your possessions, would be divided and scattered about eventually having little impact on those who possessed them.

But how they remembered you, the way they saw you, will be passed on from generation to generation. They will remember how you made them feel because you became a part of them. In turn they become a part of all they touch.

Winners are eternal in a positive way. Losers, those who care little for others, negatively impact the cycle of life.

If those words written by my friend were the final words spoken about me, I finally would have won the most important game. The game of life.

In the words of the Beatles, "And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."
-The Beatles

The Prayer
Dear God,        
        If You are the better known and loved because I have been on this world, then I would consider that to be the Greatest Success I could ever hope to attain.

You ALL are Within the Infinitely Loving Embrace of our Universal Parent,

The Creator's Eternal Love to all of You,
Pastor Daniel

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