"The Way You See People"
(By: Zelig Pliskin – “Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives” - Shaar Press)

8-10-2005 Church Within SOW Seeds Service - Story #352

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This week's SOW Seeds Story, contributed by: Minister Mary Huggins

Story of the Week
"The Way You See People"
(By: Zelig Pliskin – “Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives” - Shaar Press)

My students have told me the following:

        I see people as selfish, self-centered, defensive, and incompetent. And I've seen this proven again and again. If people were better, I would be able to treat them better.

        I see people as distant and unfriendly. This causes me to close up. And they probably see me the same way, even though inwardly I see myself as a friendly person.

        I see people as open, warm, and kind. Whenever they aren't this way, it's because at this moment they're not really themselves. I've seen so many people open up and reveal that they are warm and kind so I know that this is the reality of the human condition.

        The way you see people is the way they will be in your presence. You the observer have a major effect on the person you interact with. Radiate positive energy and this positive energy will be reflected back to you again and again.

        People who view others with negative lenses bring out the worst in others. People who are fearful of others and are easily intimidated, fail to bring out the best. And those who view others in a positive light without being naïve or blinded by wishful thinking will elicit the goodness in others.

        This does not mean that we can trust everyone. There definitely are people who are mean or dishonest. But you have a better chance of influencing others to treat you kindly by perceiving them as kind.

        The toughest people are often those who inside are small frightened children who have been emotionally wounded. View them with love and compassion and the fearful little child will feel more secure. A secure person can let go of a tough façade.

        From now on be totally resolved to see people in a positive light. See beyond any outer crust of mud and soil. See beyond the negative façade. See the precious inner soul that is pure and holy. This vision has the ability to create miracle transformations.

One of my students told me the following:

        I was having a very difficult time with a few individuals. They were absolutely obnoxious when interacting with me. I tried smiling to them, but they just made fun of me. I consulted a warm and compassionate person who seemed to get along well with everyone.

        "How are you able to get along with difficult people who so many others don't get along with," I asked him.

        "I never meet difficult people," he replied.

        "What do you mean?" I asked perplexed. "I myself have seen you in friendly conversations with difficult people."

        "No one is always difficult," he responded. "I see almost everyone as a caring friend of mine and that is how they respond. I still have to work on myself in this area. But I take responsibility of building up my positive view of those I still don't view this way."

Pastor's Quote of the Week
        In the mind's eye conjure up a picture of one of your primitive ancestors of cave-dwelling times--a short, misshapen, filthy, snarling hulk of a man standing, legs spread, club upraised, breathing hate and animosity as he looks fiercely just ahead. Such a picture hardly depicts the divine dignity of man. But allow us to enlarge the picture. In front of this animated human crouches a saber-toothed tiger. Behind him, a woman and two children. Immediately you recognize that such a picture stands for the beginnings of much that is fine and noble in the human race, but the man is the same in both pictures. Only in the second sketch you are favored with a widened horizon. You therein discern the motivation of this evolving mortal. His attitude becomes praiseworthy because you understand him. If you could only fathom the motives of your associates, how much better you would understand them. If you could only know your fellows, you would eventually fall in love with them.

(From: The Urantia Papers - Paper-100 Section-4)

The Prayer
Dear God,        
You have so often shown me in my experiences, the validity of the statement: “The way you see people is the way they will be in your presence.” When I am able to see them as my Beloved Brothers and Sisters, it seems inevitable that indeed, that is how they act when they are with me. I would see them even more so as You see them Father, and in turn, Love them as You Love them. Help me to each day become better and better at this.

You ALL are Within the Infinitely Loving Embrace of our Universal Parent,

The Creator's Eternal Love to all of You,
Pastor Daniel

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